Post 56: Find Your Inner Geek.

Social networking alone can link you up with what's going on in many different parts of the world. By tweeting here or blogging there, you can touch the lives of hundreds of people. Quite simply, knowing your way around the computer connects you to the rest of humanity. And that is a real confidence-builder.

Hoyeah

Post 55: Smiles and Laughter Are a Way of Bonding.

I smile a lot, like always smiling since i believe it would be able to create positive energies surrounds me. It is as easy as ABC. You meet someone, says Hi and smiles. Do it every mornings, it might helps you a lot, especially when you are all stressed up with tones of work.

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Robert Provine found that laughing was more than thirty times as likely to occur in participants in a social situation than in a solitary setting. Laughter, he found, has less to do with jokes and funny stories and more to do with building relationships. He found that only 15 percent of our laughter has to do with jokes. In Provine's studies, participants were more likely to speak to themselves when alone than they were to laugh, Participants were videotaped watching a humorous video clip in three different situations: alone, with a same sex stranger, and with a same-sex friend.

Only 15 percent of our laughter has to do with jokes. Laughter has more to do with bonding.

Even though no differences existed between how funny the participants felt the video clip was, those who watched the amusing video clip alone laughed significantly less than did those who watched the video clip with another person present, whether it was a friend or a stranger. The frequency and time spent laughing were significantly greater in both situations involving another person than when participants was alone.

Laughter occurred much more frequently during social interaction. These results demonstrate that the more social a situation is, the more often people will laugh and the longer each laugh will last.

Taken from The Magic of Smiles and Laughter(Pg. 84 - 85) of The Definitive Book of Body Language - Allan & Barbara Pease

Post 54: Embrace Your Fears.

I have been included in on-call support list for next month. The problem is i am still new with my workloads(requests etc.), and to handle Support Mailbox which is full with complex issues is something that i never think about and scared of. I doubt my confidence level since i think i am somehow lack of mainframe knowledge. How to boost my self-confidence ? Hence this post, i found this reading materials that might help me, and you :')

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. Except a creature be part coward, it is not a compliment to say it is brave - Mark Twain

Logic would dictate that overcoming something that frightens you make you stronger and more self-reliant. By embracing your fears, you are creating a much more efficient and practical way of dealing with them. You don't have to climb Mount Everest or jump out of a perfectly good airplane to move through your anxieties; oftentimes just dealing appropriately with the stress and worry of daily life can increase your self-confidence.

One of my friends is a successful physician who says that he is scared every day, and he welcomes it because he truly believes it makes him a better doctor. He is more careful and doesn't take unnecessary chances with his patients. It drives him to be his very best and makes him a more confident practitioner.

I was once told that faith is the opposite of fear, and whereas i see how having a belief in a higher power can make you feel safer, I also think that understanding why your fears exist, and learning the lessons they can teach us, are also very powerful tools.

For most of us there is a payoff to our fears. Yes, they can keep us physically safe so we don't step off a cliff or try to pet a tiger, but there is often more to our fears than just keeping ourselves protected. Fears can make us more introspective and help us see exactly where we need to make adjustments so that we have the strength to accomplish the task at hand. Having the confidence wrap your head around your fears and look at how they help or hurt you is a great exercise to help you not only overcome them, but also use them to accomplish your goals.

I don't know anyone who has overcome or embraced their fears and not been better off and more confident for it. Whatever it is that scares the hell out of you should be tackled with the insight that, by hitting it head-on, you will vanquish the demons that reside in your mind.



- Taken from Embrace Your Fears(Pg. 31 - 33) of 100 Ways to Boost Your Self-confidence - Dr. Barton Goldsmith

Post 53: Things i Checked Before Buying Books.

Do you read books ? What kind of genres do you preferred ? I read almost all genres till i realized I am much more interested on something with facts and evidences, something with statistics and has been analysts. Anyway, other than the contains itself, there would be something that i look after before buying any books, and what are they ?


1. Book's Title

- I always found myself selecting and screening books by it's title first and always being attracted with something which i believe suits enough with my situations or circumstances at that time. For example, whenever i felt a bit unhappy, i would prefer to read something which can help me improved my level of happiness.


2. Font-size Used

- I admit that the smaller size of font used by the publishers would made a turned-off for me. This is a tough calls when i found a very interesting reading materials, however they were using kind of small-sized fonts, i would just put back the books on its rack. I won't buy, because i know it could distracted me from continuous reading. I preferred books with medium to large sized of fonts.


3. Plain white papers

- You know right sometimes the books were printed on the somehow somewhat brownish kind of colored papers ? It looks like a vintage, perhaps but i definitely won't buy because it could turned-on my sleepy mode. Haha. I loved the smells of carbons from fresh white papers ! Okay, i know i am freak ? No, i am uniquely the way i am ;p


4. Book's Covers

- I found this one book with very bright green color covered yesterday. It seems so eye catching i tell you !! It spells sweet ! Just imagine your books with bright colors as covers on the shelf ? Is not it interesting ? However this will only be on my very least things i checked before buying books. If i selected books with very nice covers, it was bonuses ! If not, i would just do not care as i have no. 1 until no. 3 checked !



p/s: Happy Ramadhan to all my Muslim's readers if have any ;)

Post 52: Remember, There is No One Else on Earth Like You

What is the biggest mistake people make in applying for jobs ?

" The biggest mistake people make in applying for jobs is in not being themselves. Instead of taking their hair down and being completely frank, they often try to give the answers they think you want. But it doesn't work, because nobody wants a phony. Nobody ever wants a counterfeit coin " - Paul Boynton

You and I have such abilities, so let's not waste a second worrying because we are not like other people. You are something new in this world. Never before, since the beginning of time, has there anybody like you, and never again throughout all the ages to come will there ever be anybody exactly like you again.

The science of genetic informs us that you are what you are largely as a result of twenty-three chromosomes by your father and twenty-three chromosomes contributed by your mother. These forty-six chromosomes comprise everything that determines what you inherit.

If you can't be a highway, then just be a trail,
If you can't be the sun, be a star,
It isn't by size that you win or you fail,
Be the best of whatever you are !

- Taken from Seven Ways to Peace and Happiness of How to Enjoy Your Life and Your Job - Dale Carnegie

Post 51: It's Not How Good You Are, Its How Good You Want To Be.

By: Paul Arden


I know i should have this one at the first sight :)

Post 50: 101 Clever Ideas to Lighten Up the Workload

By: Scott Friedman


As i am not that good reviewing by words, i snapped some pictures for you as a teaser !












I definitely going to try this 'Jelly Beans' method !! Haha :')


Okay enough with the preview, now go get yourself your own copy ! :)